kiddie talks - 8

I was not feeling well yesterday and suffering to bad cold and cough (courtesy : sinus) . So didnt send P to school (update : this is from my draft and the day is Monday)

Morning just woke up and gave P his milk and bread for breakfast and went back to hit my sack and around 12.00 just woke up and made paruppu rasam. Gave the paruppu satham with rasam to my grandmother to be given to P and went back to my bed. So after few hours of rest i was feeling better , so started my routine from the evening.

Made P to study and finished cooking for dinner and ironed our clothes and kept them in order. All the while P didnt say anything and while we prepared to go to bed he came and asked me..

"Amma enna kaarthala irunthu chumma acting pannittu irunthiyaaa, ippo nee nalla thaana irukka ."

And all the while when he behaved well without making fuss i was feeling proud just to hear these lines from him. HMMM ..... inime athukkagave chumma vanum paduthundu irukkanumnu purinjithu.

Dos and Donts during the pregnancy

This series deals with the methods which i followed with P from his birth(conception stage in this post alone) till date. The posts would also include the mistakes which I made, so that it can be avoided by the readers. This is purely my views and need not necessarily be followed to the T. If anything is wrong, it may kindly be pointed out.


Before the birth during conception


Please be relaxed and wipe out the negative thoughts and the inferiority complex,if any, completely from your mind. It plays major role in the character building of your child. Always remember that the mood and mindset during the conception period plays major role. I brooded a lot and used to cry thinking of my mother and the care which i was missing. Though my aathukarar and grandmother took very good care , nobody can replace a mother during those days. So whatever the case may be , try to be cheerful thinking of your child and it is the time to relish rather than brooding. Because P tends to get tears at the slightest hint of any disapproval or if something goes wrong.. i feel it might be largely attributed to my sulky nature during those days.


Hear good music and especially soothing ones rather than those loud ones. I used to hear gayathri japam and carnatic songs and melody songs from films. Music creates a peaceful atmosphere both for the soul and our mind . We tend to concentrate on the lyrics and the song and in the process forget other worries. It also has an impact on the child who in the later years shows inclination towards music. P , when u watch closely would always be singing something or the other when he is engrossed in his work. Even if not working, he would be murmuring some song.


Try to visit temples atleast once a week. I sincerely feel all my prayers and the daily visits and the raghavendra swamys theertham only saved P. It really gives u confidence and the aura surrounding you and the vibes which people pass when they see a pregnant lady would definitely bring positive energy and a smile on your face.


Eat lots of veggies and less of rice. Its a misconception that we should eat for 2, whereas the regular quantity with a slight increase of proteins and vitamins would be more than sufficient. Also include fruits to your diet and if it is summer season have a control on your intake of mangoes in particular and sweets in general, cos it may lead to pregnancy sugar in the later stages. I suffered like that and i was made to have coffee without sugar and avoid sugar contained foods and was forced to be on diet .
The diet chart was literally 2 marie biscuits, 1 cup rice and 2 chappathis and 1 cup of coffee without sugar and in the evening handful of groundnuts or peas and night - 2 chappathis. But i didnt follow any of the thing except that i avoided sugar and coconut and restricted my rice content. All the way my aathukarar was making fun of the dietitian when she explained and it was hard for me to listen to her.

On the whole be happy and prepared to welcome ur precious little one to this world with joy.

P.S - All of my close friends are pregnant (4 of them) and this prompted me to write this post.

Kiddie Talks - 7

My aathukarars sony ericson p1i has started giving problems and the touch pad is not working. So when he was away in delhi i was not able to reach him. The girl was always saying he was not reachable at the moment and asked to record a message.
So, i gave my mobile to P and asked him to try once again to reach his father. Suddenly he started speaking. And i was wondering how he got the line. And when i listened closely..

P : Neenga konjam quiet ah irukkeengala, nan enga appa kooda konjam pesanum.... (why dont u be quiet for some time i would like to speak to my father)

LOL :))))

Kaalam maridichu

I somehow dont seem to recollect how i studied my KG's. What exactly did i study? How did i get through the various standards. My latest memory is of I standard where the whole class used to recite the multiplication tables. Now i wonder how do i go about with my son.

Last week we went for the open house in his school. These days the parents are more anxious and are trembling before the teacher for her remarks about their child. Irrespective of your status in the society whether u r a professional or a home-maker or a businessman, invariably you are made to sit in the classroom (that too on the small benches) to receive the report card of your child. It brought back memories of me carrying my report card to my grandmother to get her signature and preparing explanations all the way to home to be given. And i would never give her the report card in the evening if i had scored bad marks. The auspicious time would be the morning time , that too just before getting into the riksha who had been made to wait atleast for 10 minutes. Now-a-days iam waiting indefinitely for the van to come along with my kid and aathukarar(ellam antha rikshaman kudutha saabam thaan) that too in the vaasal cos we live in the first floor.

And regarding the report card, though it was the review of first term with no marks / grades i can see parents comparing the review and discussing among themselves. I was glad that i had been among the first few so that i need not participate in those discussions. I just finished my turn and rushed home. But, i should say, whatever things i write or think about parenting i was proud and happy when his teacher said he was doing extremely well and was excellent in his reading. Iam thinking of posting some tips which i followed during P's early days to make him understand and read various things so that it would be helpful for other kids. Those people who teased me when i started during his 10th month are now wondering aloud about his progress. So, it is always good to start early.

Now, this post ends with a note that i made a short trip to bangalore last week for a reception. It was truly a dashing trip with a stop at sripuram, vellore. So, imagine if i say a stop of about 16 hrs in vellore on the way to bangalore means how much time i would have actually spent there. We started by car on friday and ended up spending our night in vellore and in the morning went to the temple and had our breakfast there (it was really a yummy pongal both sweet and melagu one) and lunch in M's grandmas house and started to bglre around 3 pm. Reached bglre border around 5.15 pm (it was very pathetic to see those tar on the tamil words written on the thoranavayil). And all the while we were in bangalore i was afraid that we had to go in a car with a TN registration plate . Then attended a reception in bglre at palace grounds, and you wouldnt believe it took almost 45 minutes for us just to take a U-turn and go to the other side of the road to reach the gayathri vihar. Pathetic roads and traffic control, namba chennai evvalavo thevala. Again started to chennai with a stop at vellore in the morning.

P was more excited with the concept of staying in a hotel that he kept on asking us that we go every weekend to bangalore to stay in the same suite.

Kiddie talks - 6

P : Amma, Moon irunthaa athu enna "aasai"

Me : Blinking . Appadinna ennada enakku onnum puriyalaye.

P : Athuthaan maa, mam school la sonnanga nnu sonnene.

Then only it striked me that he was asking about the ammavasai. They had taught him the previous day about the full moon day and no moon day. So, moon illatti ammavasai appadinna, moon iruntha athu enna aasai.

Then explained him that it was pournami.

When i was sitting in a chair he came around me again and again and said " neethaan sun naan thaan earth ". so ippo appava enna suththa sollu, avar thaan moon.

I think children these days are far ahead of our times, and we have to be equipped in order to travel if not ahead along with them.

Hurray!

Hurray!! This is my 50th post. Though people wanted to celebrate ;)))) in a big way by putting up banners and poster like the one which held in kancheepuram ( pls dont ask what it is , i expect everyone to be well-informed, athukkum mela engathukku auto llam varappadathu illayonno ) i modestly discouraged them . Ennatha irunthalum enakku tharpugazhchillam pidikkathu.

So, iam giving myself a pat on the cheek and a big hug........(cos iam a lazy one, so 50 post ezhuthinathe periya vishayam illaya). I know there are people who have been blogging for years together, aana avalta ellam naama kittaye poga mudiyaathu, etho nammala mudinjathu.

Went to the landmark sale, but i was unable to find good books ( to be true books at all) on phonics . Now-a-days these schools follow the curriculum based on the phonics, but publishers are yet to come out with good books on the subject. The ones which i found were just the name-sake ones. But, i picked few story books for my kid and a book on "facts".
I also picked few R.K.Narayan books , though read them in library i always wanted to own them.
Always i wanted to own a huge library, and i have just started to pursue it in a small way. Whenever i go out i just pick out books for my kids. Now, i have close to around 100 books. Needless , to say it occupies major space in my house. About 90% are story books for my kid which are in easy to read language. Rest of them are my collections. This is apart from our professional books which constitutes 3 sacks. I hate to keep them in sacks but lack of space forces us to keep them. I always wanted to have my own study room with huge display racks as in libraries.

Wish all of you a happy and safe deepavali.

P.S - Still deepavali purchase is pending . Enga aathukarar atleast saturday kku munnadiyavathu vaangi kudupparunnu nenaikkiren. (I already have a pattu saree from my father , but paavam my kid)

Past Fortnight

Well, can so much happen in a fortnight? The answer is yes. First of all an event happened twice and i was apprehensive about penning it down for the simple reason that it brought back the bitter and the spine chilling experience again. But , finally i made up my mind that to ensure it doesnt happen again i should pour it out and empty myself.

I have heard so many times the phrase " oru nimisham oru ugam maathiri" but havent experienced it untill last week. The first one took place in a famous store in pondy bazaar. I used to be very proud of the fact that my kiddo was extra smart and very cautious but, he proved my belief wrong and also made me feel guilty. Just penning my thoughts itself gives me nightmares and it is like re-living the experience. That day my kids class got cancelled so inspite of his protest to go straight to home i took him to the shop. I felt that if we went straight home he might either go for TV or the PC, so in order to drag the time i planned to go for shopping.

We purchased some books and a toy for him there and when we went to the counter which was in the ground floor ,he stayed in the steps leading to it which were hardly 10 in numbers. I stood in the counter and had an eye on him as well. But, when i just took my eye to take out the cash and looked again he was not to be seen there. Gosh!!! fresh shrills went up to my spine and my first thought was someone had taken him. I rushed outside to confirm that he didnt leave the store. But there was no sign of him and the security and one of the store manager who was standing there told me that no child went outside alone. But, i wasnt convinced and searched again and then went to the basement and called aloud his name. It would be silly to say one hundred thoughts passed in my mind and i was afraid that he would go past me if i leave the entrance and check the first floor. At that time i started calling my aathukarar and tears started rolling down my cheeks. When the ring was going i just looked accidently in the first floor and there was my kid standing and crying with one of the shop assistant and words cannot describe my feelings i felt on seeing him. Immediately i disconnected the call and rushed towards him. He was scared and i didnt ask him anything at that moment. And i profusely thanked everyone and once i got out of the store i started telling him how worried i was when i was unable to find him. Then he told me that he was just sitting there and when i went to the counter he was unable to see me and assumed that i had gone back to the first floor.
Irony is that i have this series of read aloud books called "Bruno series" where one of the book is Bruno gets lost. I religiously tell him everyday the story and make him answer the questions at the back of the book where a similar story is printed. I felt very guilty in assuming the things and not taking proper care. This iam saying cos the incident got repeated two days later in the kamatchiammman temple in kancheepuram where i had gone with my sister, chithi, athai and paatti. There too while doing the prathakshanam i assumed that he was with my sister but he had stopped enroute to do the namaskaram before the dwajasthambam. It was our practice to do in every temple and since there was heavy crowd we decided that after prathakshanam we would do the namaskaram. But hardly we went 10 steps when we noticed him missing. Ran and came backwards in search of him when i found him with a lady who was about to take him to the office since he was crying and standing there. Again thanked her and got nice thittu from her for being so careless. Never i had been this careless, and all the way iam feeling guilty. Am i not a good mother and how can i repeat the same thing twice. Always my aathukarar used to complain that when iam on road i used to "parakku paathufy".

Okie. Now to reduce the intensity of this post.

Went to the doctor since my kid had cough for the past one week

kid : Dr. Ungalukku sticker venuma

Dr : (avarukku mothalla onnum puriyala) Ennathu sticker ah? Seri okay venum enna sticker vechindrukke.

Kid : Spiderman sticker. Aana neenga enakku oosi (injection) poda koodathu , appothaan ungalukku sticker tharuven.

Both doctor and his wife were astonished and later burst out laughing.

(I didnt know that he carried the stickers and somehow assumed that the dr was going to put injections, cos we vaccinated him the previous month)