Kiddie talk - Pa

 When i posted 2 days back, it felt nice to go through all the posts and especially Kiddie talks by P.

So, i thought i should also record about Pa, who is in 5th std now. Though i have missed recording so much, something similar to P's incident happened. It was like a rerun of the old movie.

Pa is very close mouthed. She is not very divulging, in the sense, she filters her thoughts and actions when recounting the incidents. So, yesterday we were having the bed time. 

This year beginning all the sections got mercilessly shuffled and that is another story by itself. So, Pa is struggling a bit to adjust. And also the teachers behaviors making it worse for her.

As such Pa is very quiet and does all her work and is studious too. But daily morning she would say NO SCHOOL . I cajoled, coaxed and did what not to get the reason behind. The reason being " THE TEACHERS ARE RUDE AND ARE HITTING KIDS" 

All these 9 years i havent even called her name loudly. She would just get her dam going the moment i call her sternly. And P would always mock me saying ' nee enna evvalavu adichiruppa' . Though the realisation and gnanothayam is late, i do regret being that parent. Anyways everything is TRIAL AND ERROR , what say.

Coming to the main subject, when we were having bed time conversation , i recalled her friend saying the boys of the class were naughty and asked her who were the naughtiest. She said some 5 names and said S is the worst and he almost got TC. And i asked what the reason was - He was using words like "LOVE and all" in class. And V complained to the vice-principal and they warned him.

I was so shocked and taken aback. Then i started explaining its not wrong to talk about love and it means affection. Its nothing but affection shown among people. Like me loving Pa, her appa and her appa loving her and P. There is nothing wrong in thinking in those lines  unless it disturbs the other person and makes them uncomfortable.

I think bringing up kids these days is in itself a task similar to tight rope walking. You cannot just say ' YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO ME BECAUSE IAM YOUR PARENT' . They are past all those things. Each and everything should be explained and given reasons.

As my friend said, ithukke ippadinna, innum evvalavo irukku. 

Random thoughts

 Its been long time since I posted random thoughts. And yes i know i have kept one post hanging midway. I actually cannot bring myself to continue that. Maybe i would sometime later.

Yesterday, after long time (some 5-6 years later)spoke to one of my close friend. This set me going for some philosophical thoughts. How does one define close friend.

We studied together in school and till 8th we were just acquaintances and as fate was playing its role in mandatory shuffling of classes, we ended up together. Her friends and mine were left behind and we two ended up together in this class.

And again, she played a major role in me selecting my group -  COMMERCE in my 11th.

SHE IS THE CULPRIT - QUOTE  THERE IS THIS UNCLE WHO IS A CHARTERED ACCOUNTANT AND HE EARNS IN THOUSANDS UNQUOTE  

Immediately all my dreams were centered towards this MONEY MILKING COURSE WITH MINIMUM INVESTEMENT. 

Now when i think back, i curse that uncle and also my aathu who had this ambition of being a triplet. (This term was familiar to all the commerce students at that point of time. And i know the confusion of non commerce and also some commerce arivujeevi's ;) )  TRIPLET - CA, ICWA AND ACS.

Oru course eh inga naakku thalluthu ithula triplet vera.

OK, coming back to the main thing. The conversation between us just flowed and we were like, where are you now? how about kids and all. The ease was there. And she was saying we (3 friends) weren't meeting often and even her sis who is in US meets her friends regularly.

This got me going. Do we have real friendships or ist circumstantial or ist beneficial or ist relative?

Iam a typical CAPRICORN who has high ambitions and sets high standards regarding everything. The moment i sense fakeness i just withdraw myself. PREVIOUSLY, it was just drawing a line and not going there but now i have learnt to balance and be cordial. 

Vayasu aaga aaga , i think iam mellowing down and  becoming more accepting. 

I WATCHED THIS SWEET KARAM KAAPI in amazon prime. I liked it more and would definitely like to go on a trip and not with friends but with AATHU and just him alone, who is more accommodating and  more fun to be with.