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 We usually talk about everything in our class. I dont like it to be just academics. We talk about life and all the things under the sun, literally.

Yesterday, during a similar session, one of the student said ma'am, my parents have high hopes on me. My brother is an engineering graduate and when they were talking about their retired life, they were building castles. Not metamorphically, but real castles saying X (my brother) will find a job and settle in his life, but S (me) would do CA along with graduation and would buy big mansion with just few signatures. 

Ma'am, ist real we would be paid lakhs for our one signature??????????

What should i answer for this? Nejaththa sollanuma illa avanga hopes ah kalaikkakoodaathunnu poi sollanuma............................

Any field you get into, so many factors determine how you fare about. Those days when people say study hard , you can earn well, but does it  always work?

I tell my students, whatever you choose to become or study, the success depends on your skill set and the environment. So many factors determine our path - our family environment, our skill set, the lengths we determine to go about to achieve our dreams, our ambition and so on..........

What i feel is we should always enjoy whatever we do and should give our best. Even if i choose to mop the floor, i should do my best.

I can see a change in my pattern of thinking too. Being my first born - P suffered the most. I wanted him to excel and be the best, but later changed and now when he wanted to shift his stream completely, we accepted. Because, for us, now, his happiness is more important than the money spent or the year wasted.

Also, for Pa, even though i ensure she prepares for her exam, i am not that paranoid or i have adopted a laid back attitude. We just want her to enjoy the process rather on insisting she excel in everything. Ist, because naan thirunthittenaa or the age gave me wisdom or i understood the reality.

Whatever, I like this phase, lets just enjoy :)

No school

 For the past 2 months , this has been the rambling of Pa. Never before she used to say this. So this came as a shocker to the mom, who didnt have trouble with P at all during his entire school days. (I know he was very much interested in escaping from mom's hands)

First thing was, I was unable to comprehend the reason behind that. She is very much amukkam type . P usually tells everything(even today - if i just say appadiyaa, ok) , but nothing works with Pa. Only recently i have started to get something from her (at the least). So , it was all the more difficult.

And people who know me well, can understand. I tend to imagine all the worst possible situations in my head and would be kavalapattufying within myself, though i would put up a very brave front. Only my aathu would be able to decipher me. He can immediately say from my voice (naanga thaan long distance kudumbam nadathurome) that iam troubled.

So, being a very sensitive and body strong basement weak mom, i started panicking and tried to get information from her friends. This process took me whole day because i called their moms and tried to first make them understand the situation. (What else u expect , when you child starts crying uncontrollably the moment you wake her up for school)

By that time i had imagined various situations from all the psychotic movies.....

Fine, coming to the point, it turned out that she had problem with her classmates. For the past 6 years she was in one section, which means they were all used to each other and a safe haven was formed. Now, this year, there was shuffling. Initial days were like honeymoon, where they all showed their nice side and it was fun for everyone. When things slowly started settling, bullying and ego problems cropped up.

But, as a mother, you imagine the worst possible scenario and think of all the bala and selvaraghan movies and let your own screenplay playout in front of you. Ist too much exposure to information or as a society we have turned worst or there is lack of trust?

Ithukku nadula when i was asking her - she was like

Why should i go to school?

Why cant i learn everything at home?

Anyways you only teach me everything, why dont i opt for home schooling?

Iam going to be an artist and fashion designer, why should i study science and other subjects?

Maths , i agree, i need for calcuations because i will open up a retail store for my fashion label

Intha kelvi ellam enakku ennannu kooda theriyathu at that age. Hmm enna pandrathu

Somehow, convinced her saying, its the Govt policy that every child should compulsorily go to school.