A change in me

Today seeing myself from a distance i was able to see a different persona altogether. Is this change attributable to post-marriage or the maturity that comes with age or mere selfishness? Iam yet to figure out.
I grew up in a joint family system with lots of uncles who happens to be the brothers of my mother. Since my mother was the only daughter after her death i became the treasure of my grand-parents. So, more than the care i grew up with lots of sympathy. Acho paavam intha kozhantha, i was hardly 2.5 yrs. So was totally pampered and would always poke my nose into everything. Only in my teens did i actually realise my position. It was only during that age i missed my parents. Haven't called my father as father even once. He is settled with his own family .Though i don't regret this , i missed having a fatherly figure around. I used to wonder how horrible it is to forget ur own child what may be ever ur problems be. Even now my aathukarar cannot stay at a stretch of 2 days without seeing my kid.
Fine, now comin to the topic , i used to give comments and suggestions and even discuss during pre-marriage times about people in our family. I used to think myself as the saviour and the solutions have to be put forth only by the rational thinker which is obviously me.
Due to this attitude, i got and saved most of their hatred and their swearing.
But now-a-days even when my grandmother or any of the members of the family complaint about the things i keep mum or altogether avoid the topic and conveniently shift their attention. Is that because i don't want to interfere or feel matured or feel selfish and don't want to take the burden of their problems.
And more importantly, how ever independent you are, we are supposed to maintain the distance from your family and even the words which we speak have lots of bearings on your husband. Its irrespective of love/arranged marriage.
Before marriage the girls family is always been cared , but once you get married the guy hold the authority.
Or is it just my case,. Or is it my thinking. Iam not clear.
Enakke theriyuthu naan bayangaramaa olari irukkennnu.
Just wrote whatever things came to my mind.

P.s. If u r looking for entertaining post, this is just not for you.

Kiddie talks - I

Yesterday we went to the reception of my aathukarar's cousin. On the way the talk between the father and son goes as follows:

A : Innaikku ennoda thangaioda kalyanam daa

S : Kalyanama? unakku eppo paa?

A : Hmm. Athu eppavo enakku aayiduchudaa

S : mm starts whining... Enakku innum aagaliyeeeeee. Unakku matttumm en aachu... starts crying...(He always goes head to head on all things with his father)