Sports day and Summer season

P just now recovered from fever due to viral infection. And one annoying habit of mine (according to aathukarar) is to check P's forehead every 5-10 minutes at the maximum and if i find it that he is having fever at the interval of every 2-3 minutes. Notwithstanding, i would also be taking his temperature every half-an-hour till i find his body to be in normal condition.
Is this annnoyyyiing habit exclusive territory of yours truly or ist the momma syndrome???
Ever since i saw a child suffering from convulsion due to high fever right in the waiting hall of the clinic, i am being extra cautious. My imagination as everyone are aware would travel by leap and bounds. Though i know that keeping my hands constantly over his fore-head would'nt help , iam unable to stop it.
And all this episode started from friday and this was the first time he complained of headache as he returned from school. It all seemed to start with his crying at the loss of his cap which he carries to school , cos they practice in the ground for the upcoming sports day. One girl had taken the cap and went in another van, so P seems to have started crying in the school. Even right from his childhood P is always careful with his things and never loses a thing. And if he loses he would bring the roof down. Though he would share with his friends and all, iam unable to change this habit of him.
When i think of all the mosquito bites and the fog and the chillness, i always feel the summer season was the best. Right from my childhood, except for the surprise holidays during schooldays due to rain, i always have a liking towards the summer season.

Thats why, Chennai is always the best

Ramayana doubts???

Today P was watching Pavanaputra hanuman and the following doubts were raised my P. And i seriously didnt know the answer:

1. Why did Rama kill Vaali from behind the tree? Why didnt he fight with him? Though i knew the reason that vaali would gain his enemy's power , i didnt justify Rama's act. Though there are explanations for that, nothing came to my mind at that time. If anyone can explain, please do...

2. In the cartoon, Hanuman is shown as Siva's incarnation? is that true?

3. Along with Hanuman , so many other people go in three other directions in search of Seetha. If Rama doesnt know the where abouts of Seetha , then how come he gives the sudamani to Hanuman to be shown as a symbol when he meets her?

4. Isnt unfair on the part of Vibishanan to reveal the secret of Ravanas "uyirnaadi"?


Can anyone clear my doubts???????

UPDATE : Got little hanuman book for P and in that the story goes as follows:
Anjana during her childhood days disturbs a sage and he curses her. The curse is such that the moment she falls in love she would turn into a monkey . So, she prays brahma and serves him. Brahma happy with her service tells her that he cannot remove the curse and the only option left is to to give birth to lord shiva. So, she does as advised.
Book name - Little hanuman
Publisher - Seasons Publishing

Kiddie Talks - 10

My grandmother was watching the megaaaaaaaa serial KOLANGAL. It was worst than the film villu. Still i dont understand how they all watch Devayani and the director. My aathukarar gets irritated to the core if he sees her on the screen especially when she calls in her sweet kuyil voice "Tholllllllllllllls".

And Wednesdays episode was horrible and I was folding the clothes inside the room. P came inside and said :

" Amma nee enna mattum fighting paarkakoodathu athu bad nnu solriye anaa, paatti paaru bad bad ah ellam TV la paarthundu irukkaanga."

The he came inside and closed the door saying, " Naan ithellam paarkamaatten maaa - romba bad paatti "

P doesnt like to sleep in the afternoons. First of all he wouldnt come to bed in the afternoon. Then where is the question of sleep? But , today i had put him to sleep forcibly, cos he is suffering from cough and cloud. Due to the medicines he is in a drowsy state and thought a few hours of sleep would help him. Waiting to bear his wrath once he gets up
His first and foremost wail would be

Nee en enna thookka paduthuna?!!!!!!!! Paar unnala thaan naan ellathaiyum miss pannitten...... Innaikku full night naan games velayaduven and apparam TV paarpen. Naan innaikku night thoongave maatten.

This would be his standard dialogue......

kiddie Talks - 9

My friends father is working in our office post his retirement. And sometimes he would drop us in Ps dance class. Today since my husband was not there , i decided to go by auto.
While we were getting ready for the class, the conversation went as follows:

P : Amma, namba innaikki eppadi poga porom? car or auto?

Me : Auto da.

P : En car kedaiyathu?

Me : Antha thatha innaikki varala office kku?

P : Why?

Me : He is not feeling well.

P : Appo avarukku eppadi kedaikkum ?

Me : Ennathu eppadi kedaikkum?

P : Athaam maa, velaikku ponathaane sambalam kedaikkum, pogatta eppadi avarukku kedaikkum!!!!!!!!

(During saturdays and other holidays he used to ask his dad also to stay at home, so i would tell him that only when u go for work u can get salary and can live comfortably )

Dumbstruck!!!!!!!!!! This is how kids mind work relating and co-relating the events which we cannot even imagine.

Lesson learnt

Today my aathukarar left for the holy journey to sabarimala. The pooja and irumudi samacharangal ellam took place at one of his ex-colleagues place, and this post is about the pooja and their family.
Their family is something which i started to envy right from the first meet. They have a very big extended family with all the family members present on the pooja occasions. And they are a typical tamil iyer family who give lots of importance to aacharam and anushtanam. Nevertheless those aacharams and anushtanams make them one among the crowd.
The ceremony started with sahasranama pooja and the normal pooja for the iyappan. Then the family members started to sing songs without any prompting. This includes the age group right from 5 - 80 . They didnt shy away in front of us , who are all the more strangers though ex-colleague. The range of songs they chose to sing were also different and not the standard ones being sung during the golu or other occasions. And lot more interesting was the fact that everybody knew their lines and it was not any kind of oppethify.
Then comes the central part of irumudi . Actually for people who have no idea about this - irumudi means the thengai and other neivedyams which are taken to be offered to iyappa kept in a bag with little quantity of rice . The speciality of this is the nei thengai. Havent heard of nei thengai being offered any where else (pls let me know if it is otherwise). And during this everyone used to sing the sarana goshams. And this family without any inhibitions actually enjoyed singing those sarana goshams . Not even singing , it was literal dancing. Except for the north indian families , i havent come across any tamil family who do really enjoy their poojas along with dancing and singing. It was such a treat to watch. All the grown ups literally enjoying themselves unmindful of the surroundings and surrendering themselves to the cause literally.
It might be annoying for few who are more cultured to see those ladies dancing and singing, but i learnt from them to truly enjoy the poojas ,whatever may be, which we perform at home. I just used to chant the slokas and would keep my kid occupied and finish it. But this gave me a insight on how things have to be done.
Even their interactions within themselves were truly eye-opening. It was such a delight to watch the MIL and the DIL both joining their hands in teasing the FIL. Apparam the DIL and the naathanar together started teasing the DIL's brother. No egos and ever smiling faces with no complaints. While taking their blessings i truly felt their genuineness.
Hope i try to be like them without any complaints, back-biting and vambu.

I actually like browsing like a pisasu in the night when everybody is sleeping. I dont know when this fascination started. It started right from my school days. Those days no PC , so used to watch TV which was in the living room. Ours was a joint family and there was a big hall and a common kitchen and one bedroom where my grandma and yours truly used to sleep, in the ground floor. The first floor had four rooms and every one of the rooms were occupied by my uncles.
And in the night all the rooms would be closed and my grandmother would be sleeping , whereas i would watch TV all alone in the living room. Imagine the size of the house where around 20 people would be living. Even during exams i prefer night study. Evening and night programs ellam paarthuttu athukkapparam utkarnthu padikka arambikkarthu. And in those days corporation water would come only in the night and we have to toil ourselves with the hand pumps. And antha saththathila padikkarathe oru thani anubavam.
Thookkame varamaattengarthu... but kalangarthala enga aathukarar coffee kekkarche mattum antha thookkam appadi sozhatti sozhatti adikkarthu .. Enna pannrathu.

Than vinai thannai chudum

P loves playing games in the computer and this new search tool in the google is of very much help to him. He just like that goes to the search page and types the first few letters and automatically the list is generated. So he is able to play a variety of games by just knowing the first few letters of the superheroes name he wish to play.
So in order to control and discourage him from playing i used to say that "modem has become warm so u should stop playing or else virus would come". Immediately he would shut down the system.
Today when i happened to work while he was watching TV, he came and kept his hands on the modem. Then noticing that it had become warm asked me to close the system. I was on a call simultaneously with one of my colleague and had to check a mail. But he kept on insisting. Ithuthaaan than vinai thannai chudumnu sollratha........
He was very stubborn and nagged me to the core and finally he won. Yaaru amma yaaru paiyanne puriya mattengarthu vara vara...Actually this is a difficult situation. If i insist on working then i wouldnt be able to control him the next time, but had my colleague on the line. Since she was understanding , i avoided further mess of the situation.

How does love happen?

We were totally 5 girls in the class during our 11th and 12th. Our school had both CBSE as well State board , and since it was a general practice among students to switch over from CBSE to State , we had only minimum strength. And athuleyum commerce group appadinna kekkave vendam. There is this general belief that only students who lack intelligence and who score less marks go to commerce stream. But to say the truth everyone of them in our class had secured around 90% in their 12th and it was more than the average of science stream. And among them half of us turned out to be professionals. Okie now let me put a stop to one of my famous ramblings and turn towards the topic in discussion.

During our free sessions we will always indulge in group discussions. Please dont assume that we would discuss about boys or studies which is a normal practice. But on topics of national importance like love, character building, right age for marriage and the most frequent one being swot analysis of every one present from others point of view. This would be lively because the boys present would be more studious and would study with both ears glued to our discussions.

We would discuss any given topic in a debate format which would always end with yours truly being in the winning group. Iam a very convincing speaker though always end up being a boom-boom maadu in a given argument with my dear aathukarar. He somehow convinces me and leaves me no time to think. Hmmm athellam ippo ethukku!!!!!!!!!!

Okie , now one such topic was "How does love happen?" Does it happen at first sight or only after considerable time? I feel that there exists some spark when u meet Mr/Ms Right. And befriending him and being a friend for sometime and all a hogwash afterall. Do you think a girl/boy would try to show out their negative aspects when being with a opposite sex. IT IS ALWAYS ABSURD. Each and every one of them would try to show and project their positive aspects only.

And i have seen people saying that we have common interests and attributes and that is why we have fallen in love. Ella vishayathilum othu pona apparam life la oru interest eh irukkaathu. When you truly love a person you should accept them as they are and is this a job interview to see whether he is compatible enough to be your spouse....I dont advocate the fact you should love what the cause/effect may be or however the person may be. In fact, i have felt glad when few of my friends broke their affair after finding out the dark side of the person.

Whether love or arranged , people go into the relationship only based on probabilities and i personally feel that they would be more cautious to save their marriage in case of love marriage to avoid blame game.

I remember our economics mam saying once " In anycase whether you love somebody or not , you people are going to end up marrying somebody and having a dependent relationship at some point in your life. So why waste your present moments in falling for it and just for the sake of love ruining your studies (some people). "

But these days girls are clever and they just dont go and fall into it with closed eyes. In fact they consider all those merits and de-merits before choosing a life partner. I pity only boys these days.

kiddie talks - 8

I was not feeling well yesterday and suffering to bad cold and cough (courtesy : sinus) . So didnt send P to school (update : this is from my draft and the day is Monday)

Morning just woke up and gave P his milk and bread for breakfast and went back to hit my sack and around 12.00 just woke up and made paruppu rasam. Gave the paruppu satham with rasam to my grandmother to be given to P and went back to my bed. So after few hours of rest i was feeling better , so started my routine from the evening.

Made P to study and finished cooking for dinner and ironed our clothes and kept them in order. All the while P didnt say anything and while we prepared to go to bed he came and asked me..

"Amma enna kaarthala irunthu chumma acting pannittu irunthiyaaa, ippo nee nalla thaana irukka ."

And all the while when he behaved well without making fuss i was feeling proud just to hear these lines from him. HMMM ..... inime athukkagave chumma vanum paduthundu irukkanumnu purinjithu.

Dos and Donts during the pregnancy

This series deals with the methods which i followed with P from his birth(conception stage in this post alone) till date. The posts would also include the mistakes which I made, so that it can be avoided by the readers. This is purely my views and need not necessarily be followed to the T. If anything is wrong, it may kindly be pointed out.


Before the birth during conception


Please be relaxed and wipe out the negative thoughts and the inferiority complex,if any, completely from your mind. It plays major role in the character building of your child. Always remember that the mood and mindset during the conception period plays major role. I brooded a lot and used to cry thinking of my mother and the care which i was missing. Though my aathukarar and grandmother took very good care , nobody can replace a mother during those days. So whatever the case may be , try to be cheerful thinking of your child and it is the time to relish rather than brooding. Because P tends to get tears at the slightest hint of any disapproval or if something goes wrong.. i feel it might be largely attributed to my sulky nature during those days.


Hear good music and especially soothing ones rather than those loud ones. I used to hear gayathri japam and carnatic songs and melody songs from films. Music creates a peaceful atmosphere both for the soul and our mind . We tend to concentrate on the lyrics and the song and in the process forget other worries. It also has an impact on the child who in the later years shows inclination towards music. P , when u watch closely would always be singing something or the other when he is engrossed in his work. Even if not working, he would be murmuring some song.


Try to visit temples atleast once a week. I sincerely feel all my prayers and the daily visits and the raghavendra swamys theertham only saved P. It really gives u confidence and the aura surrounding you and the vibes which people pass when they see a pregnant lady would definitely bring positive energy and a smile on your face.


Eat lots of veggies and less of rice. Its a misconception that we should eat for 2, whereas the regular quantity with a slight increase of proteins and vitamins would be more than sufficient. Also include fruits to your diet and if it is summer season have a control on your intake of mangoes in particular and sweets in general, cos it may lead to pregnancy sugar in the later stages. I suffered like that and i was made to have coffee without sugar and avoid sugar contained foods and was forced to be on diet .
The diet chart was literally 2 marie biscuits, 1 cup rice and 2 chappathis and 1 cup of coffee without sugar and in the evening handful of groundnuts or peas and night - 2 chappathis. But i didnt follow any of the thing except that i avoided sugar and coconut and restricted my rice content. All the way my aathukarar was making fun of the dietitian when she explained and it was hard for me to listen to her.

On the whole be happy and prepared to welcome ur precious little one to this world with joy.

P.S - All of my close friends are pregnant (4 of them) and this prompted me to write this post.

Kiddie Talks - 7

My aathukarars sony ericson p1i has started giving problems and the touch pad is not working. So when he was away in delhi i was not able to reach him. The girl was always saying he was not reachable at the moment and asked to record a message.
So, i gave my mobile to P and asked him to try once again to reach his father. Suddenly he started speaking. And i was wondering how he got the line. And when i listened closely..

P : Neenga konjam quiet ah irukkeengala, nan enga appa kooda konjam pesanum.... (why dont u be quiet for some time i would like to speak to my father)

LOL :))))