Ride gyan-1

          

My thinking goes overboard while riding my two-wheeler. Sometimes, i would imagine some situations and wish it to happen. Otherwise, i would try to hum some song. But of late, all philosophical thoughts only.

I was thinking why should i try to be a superwoman who would excel in everything. I came across this shorts in instagram, where a lady was saying, people judge me when i hire a maid or cook. They think i should do everything and why is she wasting money. But, actually it helps me to focus better on my job and i can improvise myself.

It actually got me into thinking. Even i have a cook and maid. Though i pay them considerably, sometimes i would think if i do those things myself i can save that money. But, then those days when they are on leave without notice, i just get into panic mode. Iam literally clueless on what i am going to do.. This happens only if it is my cook. I suddenly feel i cant survive without her. Then i try to calm myself and then get into action. Sometimes, i cook just rice and get all the sambar, rasam and koottu from sangeetha.

But, when she is on leave with advance notice, i plan my day and do all the work like clockwork, this is when i get overboard and cocky and think i handle everything on my own. But, after a week of doing everything on my own , the relief i feel when i see her face cannot be described in words :)

Also, why should i try to be a superwoman, I studied CA to work and earn money. And iam working non-stop, practicing part time and also taking classes. Apart from this i have to pick and drop Pa in school and all the classes. And sit with her for projects, and studies and private Hindi exam. And also do grocery shopping and veggies shopping, pay bills -  though all these are online - planning and keeping track literally makes me exhausted.

And all through this i worry iam not giving healthy food by myself and depending on cook. 

But, today i had this gyan - Why should i try to be a superwoman with million hands taking care of everything. Iam doing my best and giving more than 100%. I can handle only this much. When they reach their maturity level, they will eat sensibly or even if not I can only do so much. So, why iam putting everything on my head. Ithe velaiya pochu enakku, as if everything is dependent on me nnu nenaikkarthe. 

Parenting

 Today I saw a post from popular makeup artist in Instagram (asmitha). I have been following her for a while, not that iam into Makeup. I dont mean to degrade makeup and all, just that its not my cup of tea. Iam very lethargic when it comes to self grooming and tend to ignore. Its not something iam proud of. But which i want to change over time.

Ok, coming back to the post. Long back, there was a post where the kid breaks perfume in airport in a store and the mom calmly pacifies the child and pays for the broken perfume bottle.

There was so much controversy over this. First of all, who are we to judge. Just because it is in social media, each and every person cannot take the mantle and pass their comments. If you are that vetti, please utilise your time to do something productive or still talk about right of expression, then she also has the same right. Its her child and she can do whatever she wants. 

There is no universal rule for parenting. Each person handles to their best and donot jump immediately and give unsolicited advices. You dont know anything about the child's condition or the environment they are in. Their parents know better on handling their child. This was actually the topic i wanted to discuss in the first line.

She shared her experience in todays post (05.12.24-in my feed) and below there was a note saying ' Not inviting unsolicited advices from gentle parenting torch bearers' Not in the same words though :)

I loved it.